My Personal Secrets for Surviving a Breakup
Breakups can be very difficult and devastating. Here is some advice I’ve picked up over the years on how to help you move on, make things right between you two or even giving your relationship a second shot.
The reasons behind the split up don’t matter, all relationships that end have either one or both of the people involved needing space from the relationship. You can explore all your options while you guys apart. Take advantage of the time apart and use it as a chance to reevaluate the direction your life is going, an opportunity for experiencing life as a single person, dating other people, or rethinking your goals. Use the time apart to do anything you want. If you got dumped, the main reason behind it, is your partner wants to see what their options are and take a step back from the relationship.
I advise you to give your partner the space that they need. Its natural for them to push you away if you don’t give them the space they want. If you keep calling or texting them, they will feel as if you are not giving them the space they are asking for. If you really want to keep contact with your ex as just friends or a way to get back together, then you will have to give them the space the need. Understanding this important rule gives you a chance to properly give them the space they need .
With my friends who going through this, I advise them to stop reaching out to their ex for about two weeks to a month. This can be the most difficult part. It will be so difficult to keep yourself from picking up the phone to call him or emailing him.
Giving him space will work in your favor because your ex will have a chance to miss you. He will be thinking of you for sure while you are giving him the space he wants. He will be thinking of all the good times you guys have shared together. You’ve heard it before, “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
You can also gain from the “no contact” rule too. This time alone will give you a chance to decompress from all the messy feelings that coincide with a fresh break up. You can use this time to decide if this relationship is worth saving. Having some time alone will give you an opportunity to try new things and meet new people as well. You might find out that you are better off without him.
Hey, maybe your ex will be the one contacting you. This might seem like a dream come true if you’ve done everything you can and all that’s happened was you drove him away further.
So, take my advice and don’t call or text your ex for a few weeks. These might be trying times for you but I promise you that giving him space will improve the situation.
If you enjoyed this article, also check out Breaking Up Advice, Advice for the Heartbroken, and My Personal Tips to Living Through a Breakup.
